The holiday season is a time of joy and celebration for many. But for some of us, it can stir up difficult emotions, unresolved grief or complicated family dynamics. It’s important to be mindful of the fact that not everyone is going to experience the holidays the same way. Offering a little extra empathy and support can make a huge difference for those who are struggling. Here are five easy ways to stay thoughtful and compassionate during the holidays.
1. Remember, Holidays Can Be Bittersweet
The holidays bring all kinds of emotions—some good, some tough. While some people enjoy the festivities, others may feel overwhelmed by grief, loneliness, or financial stress. Recognizing that not everyone feels joyful this time of year helps validate their experience. It also sends the message that it’s perfectly okay to experience the season differently. Holding space for those mixed emotions can help people feel seen and less alone.
If someone shares that they’re struggling, just listen. You don’t need to fix things — sometimes being heard is enough.
2. Be Mindful of Triggers
From holiday music to family get-togethers, even the smallest things can bring up past trauma or anxiety for some people. For others, financial pressure or social obligations might feel overwhelming. It’s a good idea to gently check in with friends, family or colleagues to see how they’re feeling as the holidays approach. Being aware of these triggers allows you to offer kindness and flexibility when needed. Asking “How are you holding up with everything this season?” is a casual way to open the door without putting anyone on the spot.
3. Respect Boundaries
Not everyone is comfortable talking about the holidays—or even participating in them. Some people might find it too painful or exhausting to dive into conversations about family traditions or holiday plans. Letting people set their own boundaries around these topics shows respect for where they’re at emotionally.
If someone seems reluctant to engage in holiday talk, don’t push; just move on to a topic they’re more comfortable with.
4. Share Simple Coping Tools
The holiday season can be emotionally draining, especially for those dealing with anxiety, depression or personal struggles. Suggesting small, practical tools can help them manage stress. Mindfulness exercises, journaling or even deep breathing can offer quick relief. You can also encourage people to create a holiday “self-care plan”—whether that means setting boundaries with family, skipping certain events or making time for themselves.
A gentle nudge to prioritize self-care can go a long way. Something as simple as “It’s okay to say no if you need a break” can be empowering.
5. Approach Gratitude with Sensitivity
Gratitude can be a great way to shift perspectives, but it’s important not to force it. Focusing on gratitude might feel dismissive for those going through a tough time. Instead, invite them to reflect on small, positive moments—without pressuring them to be grateful when they aren’t ready.
Celebrate the little wins, like personal growth or support they’ve received, without dismissing the hard stuff they’re going through.
The holidays can be a complicated time and being empathetic goes a long way in helping others feel supported. Whether through a kind word, a listening ear or gentle encouragement, your empathy can make the season a bit easier for someone who is struggling. These simple tips can help you offer meaningful care and remind people they aren’t alone—even during the busiest time of the year.
If you or someone you know is dealing with the holiday blues and would like to speak with one of our licensed therapists, please visit CHRIS180.org/counseling-services/ for help.
Rodney Mallory, M.Ed. is the WRAP Team Supervisor at CHRIS 180. To learn more about our WRAParound Services, CHRIS180.org/program/wrap.
