For many children, returning to school can be a mix of emotions, from excitement to nervousness, especially when thinking about fitting in and making friends. Social pressure and peer relationships impact school life and can sometimes feel difficult and overwhelming to navigate. Here are some ways your child can manage the effects of social pressure, build healthy friendships and succeed in school.
What is Social Pressure?
Social pressure is that nagging feeling that someone needs to act, look or think a certain way to be accepted by their peers. It can sneak up on anyone subconsciously and affect even the most confident. Recognizing social pressure is the first step to dealing with it. Some signs to look for may include:
- Changing your behavior or style to fit in
- Feeling anxious about what others think of you
- Doing things you are not comfortable with just to be accepted
Tips for Managing Social Pressure
Now that we understand what social pressure is and what it looks like, the next question to address is what to do about it. Below are some tips for managing social pressure:
1. Get to Know Yourself
Spend some time thinking about what you like, what you believe in, and what makes you unique. Being confident in who you are helps you stay true to yourself.
2. Set Boundaries
It is okay to say no. Knowing your limits and enforcing boundaries can help you stand your ground.
3. Find Your People
Look for friends who like you for you. True friends won’t make you feel like you need to change to fit in.
4. Communicate Clearly
Learn to speak up for yourself. Being able to express your thoughts and feelings helps you navigate uncomfortable social situations.
5. Stay Mindful
Practice mindfulness techniques like deep breathing or journaling to manage stress. Staying calm can help you deal with social pressure.
Building Healthy Peer Relationships
Now that we have the skills needed to cope with social pressure and filter out negative relationships, here are some of the keys to building healthy relationships:
1. Emphasize Quality Over Quantity
It is better to have a few good friends who really get you than alarge group of acquaintances. Focus on building deep, meaningful connections.
2. Be Kind and Empathetic
Treat others with kindness and try to understand their perspective. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect.
3. Learn to Handle Conflicts Maturely
Disagreements happen. Learning to resolve them calmly and respectfully can strengthen your friendships.
4. Balance Online and Offline Time
Social media is great, but real-life interactions are important as well. Make time for face-to-face gatherings.
How Guardians and Educators Can Help
As a guardian or an educator reading this, you may be wondering what you can do to support a child whom you notice going through tough transitions. Here are some ideas:
How Parents and Teachers Can Help
1. Keep the Conversation Open
Talk regularly about what is going on in their social life. Having someone to confide in can make a big difference, so adults should not be afraid to ask questions.
2. Lead by Example
Model what healthy relationships and setting boundaries look like. Children learn the most through observation. You are always on stage, which is why it is important to lead by example.
3. Provide Support
Connect them with resources like counseling or social skills workshops. Be supportive and advocate for your child’s needs.
Dealing with social pressure and building strong friendships can be challenging, but it is possible! By being your authentic self, setting boundaries and finding supportive friends, your child can navigate any room they enter and protect their peace. And remember, CHRIS 180 is here to help guide our clients of all ages along the way.
Faith Holston is a School-Based Mental Health Therapist at CHRIS 180. To learn more about our program, visit CHRIS180.org/school-based-services.
